Sexponent: How to survive the holidays with your heart intact

Thanksgiving and Christmas breaks are coming up soon and with them could be a break-up from your sweetheart. The near month-long break that comes with Christmas is hell for couples who don’t live close together. Many find that the short-term, long-distance relationship isn’t what they signed up for and they often can’t handle the split. The break gives people enough space to start being annoyed and angry for whatever reason. Sadly it happens all too often. If you want to try to save your relationship there are a few things you can try.

Write your sweetie a love letter. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, but it has to be handwritten — not digital. Digital mail offer instant gratification and little thought to respond. An actual letter sent by envelope and snail mail offers a sense of joy, for those of us who actually get excited to see we have mail. An actual letter takes thought and care. Not to mention the fuzzy feelings your words will inspire.

There is always Skype. It might not be the most romantic thing in the universe, but it offers the lovers in question a chance to see each other and talk. It’s not quite face to face, but it’s pretty close. You can even chose to make Skype dates weekly or just a spontaneous thing. It’s up to you.

If the distance isn’t too far, send cookies and other holiday treats! Help your mom in the kitchen or make some special treats all on your own. Christmas is the best time for treats and if your sweetheart has a penchant for fudge, now is the perfect time to make it for them.

The most important thing to remember about making a long distance relationship work is that you both have to be willing to make it work. If the relationship is being held up by only one person alone it will crash. Which might even be a good thing if one person doesn’t even see the point in trying. You both need to want to make it until you see one another again.

Occasionally though, there is nothing you can do. Some relationships just aren’t meant to work out. There is no comfort in hearing that sentiment, we all know that, but sadly it’s the truth. Sometimes the only thing we can do is accept the break and try to work through it. Eating a bucket of ice cream and chocolate during a Netflix marathon usually does the trick. It doesn’t matter the gender — it works for everyone.