Let’s keep dating personal

In this time of technology, apps exist for everything, including apps for dating. Swipe left for no; swipe right for yes. If it’s a match, you can attempt to start a conversation.

I don’t like online dating. I decided to get a Tinder because I thought I should give it a chance, maybe it would heighten my chances of getting a date. If Tinderella gets lots of dates, maybe I would too. But then, Tinderella’s dates are notorious for going wrong, and I didn’t get more than one short conversation. I had a Tinder account for three days. In those three days, I matched with a man who stopped talking to me after two days, a man who I said “hello” to and who never got back to me, and a foreign man who unmatched me within five minutes.

I decided that I agreed with my original opinion; I don’t like online dating. There is no possible way to know if the people you are looking at are telling the truth. Between a world of ideas and photoshopping apps, how can you possibly be sure of who you’re interacting with? I was uncomfortable with putting myself online for people to judge just by looking at my photo and my short, 500-word profile. How can you describe your entire life, all of your amazing experiences, your awesome personality, in just 500 words?

I also feel that online dating is for the desperate (yes, I’m admitting I was desperate for a few days). You can check out a lot of people in a small amount of time, rather than taking the time to actually get to know all those people you’re swiping left on. There is little to no effort put into it; no nerves about actually talking to someone face-to-face. Maybe there’s a better chance of getting a date; then again, maybe they’ll just ignore your “hello” and move on because they just found a more attractive photo. Online dating, basically, is yet another thing to rob us of having actual social lives. If you don’t put yourself out there and get some real life practice, how are you ever supposed to get a date with someone you legitimately like?

Do you remember the story of how you were born? I do. My parents’ story has always been my favorite fairytale, and I want to be able to tell my possible future children a great story of how I met my significant other. I don’t want to say, “I swiped right and we matched based on a photo and a grammatically incorrect profile.” Today we live in a world with a much higher divorce rate, and with online dating to add to that, not only is it more likely your relationship will end in failure, but you won’t even have a great story to tell of how it started.

In my experience, you can feel someone out better in person. When reading an online profile, I think, “Ok, skiing, hiking, pretty much an average, ordinary person.” You can skip over someone based on a few hobbies that you may not particularly like. But if you meet up and really see them, talk to them, you would know that there’s more to someone than just the hobbies on their profile. We’re on a college campus with thousands of dating options. Instead of sitting on the couch swiping through photos, go out there and get to know a few of the interesting, educated people that you pass by every day without a second glance.