If you or your partner does not lubricate enough or at all, sex can be physically uncomfortable; in cases such as these, lube is the perfect solution! The idea of lubricant is simple, but there is a large variety out there to choose from, so here’s the lowdown on what you need to know:
These lubricants are almost universal in their use, since they work well with bodies, toys and condoms. They wash off easily with large amounts of water, so choose a different lube if using in the shower. While they tend to dry out quickly, a little spit or water can get it working again and you can reapply as needed.
Recommended: Swiss Navy Water Based Lubricant, Slippery Kitty
Most of these are water-based. If you are unsure of what flavor you would enjoy, start out with pillow packs — small individual packs of lubricant meant for one-time use. Once you find your preferred flavor, you can start buying larger containers.
Recommended: JO H2O, Sex Tarts Tangy Lube for Lovers, Wicked Aqua
Never use toys containing silicone when using silicone lubricants, as it can melt the material of the toy. Cleaning up this lubricant takes more time, soap, and water than water-based lubricants, and is great for shower sex.
Recommended: Swiss Navy Silicone Lubricant, Sliquid Silver Silicone Intimate Lubricant
Heating/Cooling, Arousal Creams
These are great if you are looking to add a different sensation to your sex life. Use them on various body parts, rather than limiting them just to the private area; they are very stimulating, often providing a tingling sensation. Also great for exploration and solo use.
Recommended: Hot Pink Warming Lubricant for Women, V Cooling Lubricant, Tickle Her Pink, JO 6, 9 or 12 Volt
Stick to anal-specific lubes since they’re thicker and last longer. The anus does not naturally lubricate and you should never attempt anal play without adequate amounts of lubrication. It is also important to use condoms when engaging in anal; you don’t want that flora and fauna to get anywhere it shouldn’t be.
Recommended: Anal Personal Lubricant JO H2O Warming Water Based, Anal Blu European Formulated Anal-Ese
Don’t use Vaseline or other petroleum-based products, as they can gum up the works. When using oil lubricants, stick to plant-based materials like peanut, coconut and almond oils. Do not use these with latex materials; stick to using polyurethane condoms. You must also be sure to clean thoroughly afterwards, as oil tends to clog pores (use soap and water). This lube is excellent for shower play.
Recommended: Coconut (most highly recommended), Peanut and Almond Oil
It’s all natural and great for lubrication in most instances with the exception of shower and anal intercourse.
Be very careful when using desensitizing creams. These are usually meant to help men last longer, so it’s best to use a condom in order to keep the desensitization from spreading. Try to avoid heavy desensitization during anal play, as you need to be aware of any uncomfortable feeling back there in order to prevent accidents like tears in the skin.
For more information:
The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Johannides (book)
Erotique, 12 N. Willson Ave., Bozeman